Sex can mean and involve different things – stroking, touching, kissing, licking, caressing, cuddling and not just penetrative sex or intercourse.
How you physically comfort and offer your sexual partner pleasure is open to exploration, negotiation and consent. It can be lots of fun.
Maybe it is a stress relief from the pressures of everyday life. Maybe you seek that sense of interpersonal and individual wellbeing. When we are sexual and intimate, ‘feel good’ endorphins are released from our brain. You may have heard of oxytocin. Oxytocin relaxes our natural defensive systems by soothing a part of the brain called the amygdala, which controls our stress responses.
Kissing, hugging and touching releases oxytocin as does having an orgasm. Such endorphins help us to feel close and connected to our partners, deepening our affectionate bonds. So having regular physical contact can really help with strengthening a couple's relationship.
For many couples, especially in monogamous relationships, sex is something unique to the relationship and different to other relationships you may have in your life. It provides a opportunity to feel close, vulnerable and intimate in a very exclusive and special way. Sex is also good for health and fitness. Regular sex can help boost your immune system, lower blood pressure and help improve cardiovascular fitness.
(Ref: Bedford News 4 August 2015)
There are a number of factors that motivate us to be sexual, just as there are a number of factors that could switch us off from feeling sexual. What motivates one individual may be very different to what motivates another.